REWANG

Kuali awesome!!! Pic taken from here

KENDURI, the most synonym word that comes next to kenduri is, REWANG. This word is new to me. I know this word when I date this guy that I married. It means gotong-royong basically. As penduduk kampong, it is mandatory for one to join this REWANG for social acceptance. I have never been to one, but there is one incident where my husband left me in a kelompok of Javanese speaking makcik2 and I have to mingle with them immediately. I froze for a few second, I don’t know what to do and panic attacks me…this is because I have no idea what are they talking about. Well one thing that I have learned working with people is, just smile and laugh when they laugh.

Ok back to the tajuk, things that you have to bring to REWANG through my observance of my mother in-law (she’s cool, go to the same school as me) is:

1. Kitchen knife – this is used to potong bawang or whatever that you have been assigned to do that day. (p/s: sometimes the tuan rumah already made a duty schedule for ‘rewangist’. Do check the schedule to avoid duty repetition and to have a productive REWANG session :p) Oh, “rewangist” is the urban name for people who went to REWANG. Sounds cooler :p
2. Sophisticated Jawa words or trendy common phase/greetings of your place of stay -  this is very important especially when you live in a Jawa speaking community to capture their attention thus accept you as one of them. For example: Kabare? Waras….basically it means How are you? I’m fine. Sorry la lau example terlalu common. That the only phase yang I’m confident with. :D
3. Slippers/Selipar Jamban – if you go to rewang, it is advisable for you to wear the most hideous selipar jamban that you have to avoid of losing those slippers.
4. Skills – this skills can be vary, it can be skill potong bawang, potong sayur, potong daging or people skills for that matters. Kindly sharpen them before heading to REWANG…it can be your savior from being the gossip topics of the makciks-makciks until they have a new victim to wailed upon :p

So that is all about REWANG. Do consider all this tips for the social acceptance of your community. Or you can ignore them and be the rebel in your kampong…..hahahahha!!!!

p/s: REWANG sekali baca macam nama hantu kat Filipina tuh…The ASWANG :P

Post nikah implementation review :p

Its been 6 months after the nikah ceremony. And the one thing I can tell you that marriage life rocks! I learn new culture, living in a new environment and the most exciting thing is I can “date” the guy I love the most everyday. Sound cheeky kan…but it is the truth.

Well as per described, I am learning a new culture. So, it seems that my husband lives and grew up in a “kampong” and currently I am residing in a “kampung” which I am not very familiar with. You see, I grew up in KL and have live there for almost 27 years. Not saying that my parent is urbanites, they have their own kampong too. But my parents never did exposed me to the kampong style of living, we are rarely go to kenduri (if we were to go, it is a very close relation family kenduri) if not we’re just going to skip the kenduri.

When i marry my hubby, I am also married to his whole family and neighbors, which happen to be a VERY big family and they all are close too. Within these 6 months of marriage, I can say that almost every weekend there will be a kenduri. It is very exciting! I can’t seem to recall this kind of experience my whole life. But there is a downside to this, I don’t have sufficient amount of baju kurung to attend to all this kenduri. I don’t wear baju kurung, and my baju kurung are made once a year during Aidilfitri, which is satu helai sahaja. And I am not getting smaller every year you know. So the total amounts of my baju kurung are the very thin 3 helai sahaja. The end result is, I am wearing the same baju kurung over and over again. Lesson learned from here is…to kumpul baju kurung as many as possible.

Not quite :)

Pic from here

The second thing is, I don’t understand JAVANESE (not the programming language). Oh..yeah my hubby is a JAVANESE and they still speak the language which I have no idea whatsoever..damn. I am learning it slooowwwwly..as most of the words are totally different is syllables  to either Malay or English (the only 2 language I know). It is not like you can guess or catch what they are saying because it is different totally from the language that I am familiar with. I mean you can’t Google translate ‘em cause there is no JAVA in Google translate. So it happens when my hubby want to ‘perli’ me he will use the ancient language and speak to the others. And I am as the malay said “terpinga-pinga dan tergapai-gapai di lautan” without understanding the word that they said.

Bila aku Google Image untuk JAWA ini yang keluar...terconfused sikit.

Besides all that, marriage makes you more mature I guess. You have to tolerate each other and have to endure problems together. It is not all happy-rainbowwy fairy tale like life. It is more than that. 

P/S: Kawen tu best....wohahahah!!

My silly-lily friend

That day I saw this one friend punya status in the FB that stated “ ko ingat GF ko pakai tudung tu baik sangat ke? Tak ramai jantan, lancau” (you think that t]your GF who are wearing hijab is a good girl? You are wrong dude) something like that la. 

So from there I was thinking. Who the hell are we to judge another human being? And this status was produced by a person who is muslimah and not wearing a hijab. A question mark was risen again, why are you doing this. Are you trying to justify that wearing a hijab as a muslimah does not guarantee you to be a good person? Just imagine if your status are being read by those who is none muslim? You are bringing your religion down to the drain along with you la dude. 

I wanted to say something to the comment box but seems like it is not right at that time as she is one of my close friend’s gf. I don’t want to jeopardize my relationship with him. I must say from the way she stated on her wall does indicated the hatred towards the girl and also need to console herself that not wearing a hijab as a muslimah is ok as long you have a good traits. 

There is a thing such as there is no force in islam but there is a law that stated that a muslimah have to cover her aurah in front of non mahram. I am not a perfect muslimah myself. But I am trying to be one as I love my hubby so much to drag him to hell with me in akhirat. So what I am trying to say here is, please do not bring down your religion down to the drain by producing bimbo-ish status on your wall.

Picture taken from here

2012-the end is near...ngohohoh!!

Happy 2012 everyone!!!

It’s a new year and of course a new journey for us. Oh yeah im a married woman now, so my hormone is stabilized by the testosterone hormone that makes me less rage-gy like I always do when im still single. Hahah!! It is been almost two weeks since the solemnization and the world seems like a cotton candy now. I know there is long way to go, but the conclusion that I can make now are…Married Life Rocks!!! 

There a bunch of theory out there that suggesting this and that to make a marriage works. But from the way I see is, we have to get our foundation straight which is Trust and Respect to each other. This is the hardest thing to do because of the experience of being betrayed and the factor sekeliling which makes us a paranoid person like a person who watch 2012 and believe the world are going to end soon. This two fundamental thing is important to make anything works. Without this two, you can never find peace and hiduplah di dalam keadaan yang kurang selesa selamanye. That’s my yapping to start the year 2012. And the world are not going to end in 2012. Orang maya tak sempat nak update kalender die…sebab tamadun die dah ilang.

p/s: Tahun 2012 ni is a dragon year in chinese calender, good to have babies :p

Serenade

What do you think about serenading your partner?
Was it pathetic or sweet?

Well to be honest, i find it rather sweet..at the same time quite pathetic. But i think everyone have a view on how to entertain or show their love to someone. This is one way to show it. I know i will never get this experience due to my partner's overload of belacan and nasi in his blood. The most common statement you will get from this belacan and nasi people are "kalau tak tunjuk bukan makna tak sayang". What an answer larh wehh??!. I think this kind of answer are plain lazy and insensitive.

Just imagine, if you are married right, then your husband asking for sex, then you said no....then guna ayat tadi "kalau tak tunjuk bukan makna tak sayang" what do you feel like? i might say im kinda pissed off man. i dunno bout you, bu i'll storm off the bedroom man.

Sometimes you got to show the person that you love her/him. By words and action. We know we do love each other but sometimes we forget the passion that we had together. Its not just about sex....its about romance..